What are your vices costing you in terms of money, time, happiness, and freedom?
When we look at how we live our lives, there are a couple different ways we can do things. If we have very few vices in our lives, we can earn our income in less time. We have time to enjoy life and get our rest, which means we don't need external things to satisfy us as much. I've found that when I’m working a 4-Day Work Week, the more I'm taking time off, the less I need vices to help me do things or get over things.
By vices, I don’t necessarily mean anything terrible. I mean the things that most of us use in some form or fashion, like smoking, alcohol, drugs, coffee, energy drinks, fried foods, highly processed foods, or refined sugar. I know I've got a couple on that list.
I call them vices because they’re not good for us, not because they’re mortal sins or anything like that. But we know these things aren't helping us get what we want to get in the long run, and yet sometimes we need that pick-me-up. We need the energy, or we need the focus to work harder, or to feel good about ourselves. That can help us in the short run, but usually there's a long-term cost to that.
The Price of Our Vices
Our vices can have many negative effects on us, and cost us in lots of different ways.
Financial Costs
Usually we need money to afford our vices and, depending on what the vice is, that might be small, or it might be a lot. If it's alcohol and you're having one beer at home that you bought at the store, maybe not a big deal. If you're regularly dropping $20 or more on drinks at a bar, that might be rather costly financially.
So there's the financial cost of what it takes to afford them. We're spending time working to afford the vice that's supposed to help us get over the fact that we're working so much, which is a pretty vicious cycle when you think about it.
Physical Costs
If your vice is energy drinks or coffee, these are things that will give us short-term energy, but we know in the long run they're either leading to our illness or some sort of condition. It might not be an easy to diagnose condition, but rather something like insomnia, stress, or high blood pressure.
Either way, they're not helping us in the long run. We're becoming less healthy. We're less energetic in the long run and we're constantly having to go back to that artificial source of energy.
Emotional Costs
This is where things can start getting not as fun to talk about. I spent some time when I during my master's degree in psychology working with kids with addictions. Some kids really didn't have addictions, they just depended on something in a minor way or they though it helped them.
And then some I saw really did have addiction and they needed some sort of vice, whether cigarettes or drugs or alcohol or something, either to fit in or to feel like they were included. Or even more so, just to deal with the emotions that were coming up for them.
This is not a judgment. I'm not looking to put you down. If this is where you're at, that’s understood. This is just an opportunity to think about the things that we rely on. I feel really good when I eat sugar, for a while. And then after a while, I don't. Once again, these are all things that in the long run are going to leave us dependent on external things for stability, and that's usually not a good thing.
Mental Costs
Our vices might help us to get short-term focus, but again, there are long-term risks of illness or damage, whether it’s energy drinks, too much coffee, or caffeine pills. Well, somewhere in our brain or in our intuition we know there's going to be a price to pay for this somewhere. We might not know what it is. Maybe it's not been studied, but we usually know when something is going to impact us in a negative way. And just because we don't know what that is doesn't mean it's not happening.
Spiritual Costs
I know there are a lot of different ways to define addiction, but this is the best way I've learned to understand what addiction is. My understanding of addiction is when you're using something that can't fix something to make it right.
If I'm thirsty, I might drink water. That's going to work. But if I'm feeling insecure about myself, which is an emotional need, and I grab a beer, which is a physical substance that would meet a psychological need, the beer isn't going to make me feel better about myself, at least in the long run.
And so if I over-depend on that thing, if I over-depend on that external solution or that external intervention to what's really an internal issue, like me not feeling good about myself, that's really a core definition of what addiction is or how that plays out.